Exploring Estrangement: We Are Not Victims — We Are Victorious

We Are Not Victims — We Are Victorious

Welcome, dear friends, to the beginning of something bold, unapologetic, and life-affirming.

If you’re here, chances are you've experienced the heartbreak of estrangement — the confusion, the betrayal, the gut-punch realization that no matter how much love you gave, it wasn’t enough to satisfy someone else's endless hunger for blame.
But here’s the truth:
You are not a victim.
You are not broken, defective, or "too much" or "not enough."
You are victorious simply because you survived what was meant to destroy you — and you are still standing.

At The 'F Them Kids' Book, we are flipping the narrative. We’re rejecting the shame that society tries to dump on good parents. We’re refusing to bow our heads and beg for crumbs of approval. Instead, we are walking forward with strength, dignity, humor, and a full heart — reclaiming the lives we've worked so hard to build.

This blog will be an extension of that mission.

In the weeks to come, I’ll be doing deep dives into the book’s key themes — breaking them down, expanding on them, and offering insights and conversations that we just didn’t have the space to fully explore in the pages of 'F Them Kids'. We'll talk about everything from the psychology of scapegoating, to the cultural shifts that have fueled this estrangement epidemic, to practical strategies for rebuilding your life after betrayal.

This is not a place to relive pain over and over again.
This is a place to transform it into power.

So if you're ready to live, laugh, travel, thrive, and take back your story — you’re in the right place.

Let's move forward together. Powerfully. Boldly. Unapologetically.

We are not victims. We are victorious. And we’re just getting started.

Love and fire,
Vivian